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    yuvia3040
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    Today m writing on behalf of my childhood friend.

    My Friend (V…Y) is 29 yrs old and he is wel setteled bt problem ye hai that vo khud bhot confuse hai k vo marriage krre ya naa krre…uske 2-3 reasons hai…

    1. Uske brother ki marriage k baad ghar ka mahool utna acha ni hai….

    2. Vo bhi thoda sa chanchal mann ka hai kisi b ladki se 2-4 din mai baat krrke e bore hoo jata hai, or fr baat e ni krrtaaa. uuse drr lgta hai vo yha 4 din mai bore hoo rha hai to lyf tym kaise rhega uske sth.. .. otherwise he is good by ♥… bt busy b bhot hai kaam mai…

    3. Confuse Personqlity hai…. pasand usse sohni c cute c kudi aati hai nakhroo vali pr family k lie vo chaie jo ghar mai ghul mil jayye… or fr bolega apne se upper ghar (means rich) ni laani… khta hai lets rich together…

    Ab mai usse kaise smjhau….
    k ye shaddi motichur ka laddu hai….

    Bdde e different criteria hai uske…

    ek to ladki dikhne mai b smart hoo…
    Childish nature ki hoo….
    Ghar valo ki respect kree…
    Educated b hoo…
    Ho middle class family se….

    mtlb usse kon smjhaye k ye combo nhi milega or age nikal gyi to bhaiya fr to adjust e krrna pdega….

    Ab aap e suggest krroo k kya kia jaye….
    He should wait for the right one ya koi rasta hai inki consoling ka…..

    Plz apna chota bhai/beta smjh k suggestions dena…. Lyf changing decisions hote hai ye…

    #1410
    Unknown10
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    Hello brother,
    First of all, shaadi karna zaroori nahi hota. Yeh khud ki choice honi chaiye. Koi compulsion nahi hai ki shaadi karni hi karni hai. Secondly, childish nature ek age tak rehta hai, uske baad khud hi bande ko apni responsibilities samjh aa jati hai. Aur han, ek na ek din aayega jab aisi koi ladki hogi jisse baat karke vo bore nahi hoga. Yeh aaj kal ki generation ka basic nature hai ki 2-4 din baat karke bore hojate hai kyuki humare pass options kaafi available hote hai. Toh pehli chiz, agar unne shaadi karni hai ya nahi, yeh decide kariye, or agar karni hai, or vo ready hai responsibilities lene ko toh fer time ke sath unhe achi ladki mil jayegi, forcefully ladki dhoondhne se toh milegi nahi. Or ek aur chiz, aap unne kahiye ki life ko lekar thoda sa serious hoye, har chiz ko for granted lena band karenge toh vo iss chiz mai thoda serious honge or khud decide kar payenge ki vo kya karna chahte hai.

    #1411
    Chiku
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    Absolutely true. Shaadi kisi ke kehne se nahi dil se lage toh hi karni chahiye. Aur sahi mein koi aisi ladki jarur milegi jis ke saath aapka friend bore nahi hoga. Waise mere khyal se aapke dost ko apna introspection bhi karna chahiye. Yeh jaldi hi kisi bhi ladki se bore hone wali baat jach nahi rahi. Aur agar aisa hi nature hai toh shaadi nahi karni chahiye. Kisi aur ladki ka jeewan toh kharab nahi hoga.
    Shaadi ya toh karo nahi aur karo toh fir nibhao. Wait kariye ek din unko apni mehbooba mil hi jayegi.

    #1413
    praveentheduke
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    Hi yuvia,

    your friend need to understand two things
    Firstly, if he strongly thinks that a girl coming into their house can weaken the relation which his family enjoys for more than 3-4 decades then he is wrong. When a new member comes in house everyone has to make adjustments be it a new born kid or a newly wed couple.
    Secondly, marriage is not compulsion so if he feels he does not want to marry he should nor marry but if he thinks otherwise you need to make him understand that he is looking for a girl with whose he can openly talk and share his feelings color & looks dont matter at the end, if you two are happy. Hope this helps.

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